How to Grow in Intimacy with God - Resources (2022)

by Fia Curley

8/9/16 Christian Living

In life, the people closest to us are the ones who tend to know us the best. Our flaws, talents, idiosyncrasies, the way we roll our eyes, or move our hands—those are the things our loved ones have studied and can mimic with precision. We’ve spent so much time around each other that we naturally pick up each other’s mannerisms. They can even correctly interpret our nonverbal body language.

We know these people and these people know us.

But for some reason, when it comes to God, we believe the lie that we can’t really know Him, His ways, or His thoughts, because of His greatness and magnitude. As logical as that thought may seem, it’s completely untrue and disproven by Scripture. Yes, God is so great and vast that there will always be something we’re discovering about Him in this lifetime. We may not be able to know everything about Him now, but that does not mean we can’t know Him better.

Throughout the Bible, we have numerous examples of the Lord making Himself known to His creation.

And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth. (John 1:14)

Our God communicates with His creation. We see this throughout the Word as the Lord directs His children and communicates with them, displaying His nature as an involved Father who loves, leads, and guides. The way He initiated interaction with His children in the past is how He works with us now. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever. The Bible is clear that “God is no respecter of persons;” therefore we can expect our Heavenly Father to grow us in every way, and this includes our level of intimacy with Him.

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We see growth in intimacy in the lives of believers throughout Scripture.

Moses and Joshua led God’s people from Egypt and into the promised land of Canaan. Through almost a century of following the Lord, they learned His views and His way of thinking. He talked to them about what was most important to Him and how they were to respond to the various challenges around them. Not only was He continuously watchful and present, but God showed Himself as an engaged Father who desired for His children to not just follow Him, but to know Him intimately.

Jonah was a reluctant messenger who knew God’s merciful nature. As he attempted to rebel against the Lord’s clear direction, Jonah learned about the discipline of his Heavenly Father and the thorough forgiveness that is offered to even the vilest offender. Through the ups and downs of following the Lord, Jonah gains greater intimacy with God.

Abraham was in the midst of living his life, when the Lord spoke to Him and began to lead him into His divine plan to make him into a great nation. The Lord took a man who was idolatrous and willingly made Himself known to him, becoming his God and establishing a covenant with him, making promises that He would obligate Himself to fulfill, not just in Abraham’s lifetime, but for all time. Although Abraham wasn’t looking for God, he was drawn into a relationship in which Yahweh taught him about Himself, drawing near to man.

God, who at various times and in various ways spoke in time past to the fathers by the prophets, has in these last days spoken to us by His Son. (Hebrews 1:1–2)

The Lord is excellent at pursuing and winning those He has made. And fortunately He doesn’t just desire relationship with Jewish leaders, but all of His children.

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matthew 11:28-29)

This is why He’s given us access to Himself through Jesus. Salvation is our open door for encountering God. It’s through the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross that we’ve been given free access to get to know Him more.

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The truth we need to remember is that Almighty God, who made Heaven and Earth, wants to be in relationship with us and wants us to know Him the way He knows us. He sees every effort we make to grow in intimacy with Him. And we can trust that when we draw near to Him, He will draw near to us.

Practical Steps toward Intimacy


And Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life. He who comes to Me shall never hunger, and he who believes in Me shall never thirst.” (John 6:35)

God gave us a clear picture of what He’s like, and He put it all down in a book that we can use to learn and remind ourselves of His nature. In the Bible we see how God interacts with man, how He communicates, and the topics He sees as priorities.

“If we want to know God in a deeper way, if we want to draw closer to his heart then we need to be spending time in His word consistently—daily,” says Jon Thurlow, singer, songwriter, and IHOPKC worship leader. “If we don’t feed ourselves with the Word of God on the inside, we dry up.”

One way Jesus refers to Himself is as the living water and as the Word. As we read Scripture about Him, we learn what He is like and how He thinks. We actually come to a greater understanding of His character. At the same time we are renewed, refreshed, and washed with the water of the Word. We begin to think the way He thinks.


God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth. (John 4:24)

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In times of worship, we declare the truth of who Lord is. Through worship we align our will to God’s desire and are able to reset our focus on the One who is our Maker, Creator, and Lord. As we worship, we see Him as He is—the One with all power, all authority, who is compassionate and sovereign over every part of our lives and this world. We gain a greater understanding of God and who He is. When that occurs, our perspective is corrected so we are able to see ourselves, others, and our circumstances from the correct vantage point.

More than a song, worship is the way we respond to the God who loves us and has given His life for us so that we could be completely free and clean in this life and live with Him forever in the next.


The Lord gave us prayer as a means of communicating with Him, a way of growing closer to Him. Unlike a dated, stagnant ritual of speaking words to the air, prayer is a conversation in which we speak to God and He responds. This conversation strengthens us, helps focus us, and brings us into a greater fellowship with our Maker.

Just as it is with our closest friends and family members, the more we speak to God the more we come to know His character. Prayer is a key factor in our relationship with God. Our God is living and active in the lives of His creation every day. He desires that we be children who not only know our Father, but partner with Him in the work of the Kingdom to bring His good plans about in our lives and the lives of those around us.


Many times in the Bible, the Lord’s followers memorialized physical locations to remind themselves, and others, of the great things God had done in their lives. Although we may not put up national monuments every day to express the Lord’s faithful work in our lives, it is important to take time and reflect on the Lord’s faithfulness. Times of reflection help produce gratitude in our hearts in the moment and can strengthen us in more difficult times of trials and tribulation.

When we make a record of how the Lord has prevailed in our times of sickness, need, or fear, we are cataloging His work and the testimony of His prevailing power in our lives. We truly become living epistles that not only know the history of God’s display of strength and compassion in everyday situations, but retaining those memories of what our Father has done enables us to encourage others to overcome in their time of trial as well (Revelation 21:7). We are able to point to the One who is Faithful and True and help them draw closer to God on their own path toward greater intimacy.

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Fia Curley


    Fia Curley served on the NightWatch at IHOPKC for many years, participating in prayer, worship, and intercession from midnight to 6am. Currently attending college in New York, she enjoys blending her passion for prayer, worship, and journalism as she labors with the Lord to see His goodness revealed to families, government leaders, and immigrants from non-Christian nations.

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    How do you develop Intimacy with God? ›

    Read His word every day in a place of solitude. Pray – communicate your heart to Him, share your thankfulness and your requests. Ask God to reveal Himself to you in an extraordinary way. Tell God about the parts of you that have been difficult for you to receive or accept and ask Him why you struggle to do so.

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    The Heart of Intimacy with God

    Scripture shows us that God is intimate with those who trust him. The more we trust God, the more intimately we come to know him. A felt distance from God is often due to a disruption in trust, such as a sin or disappointment. This reality is vitally important to understand.

    How do you grow a deep relationship with God? ›

    So, how should you begin to develop a deeper relationship with God?
    1. Spend time with him through prayer and by reading his word. ...
    2. Talk to God everywhere. ...
    3. Develop a relationship with others. ...
    4. Listen to God's voice and practice obedience to his word. ...
    5. Be Willing to Trust Him with your heart.

    What does God say about intimacy? ›

    Although followers of God have been instructed to "be fruitful and multiply," sex isn't meant solely for procreation. It's meant to be a joyful, intimate experience between partners. Genesis 2:24 reads, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

    What does spiritual intimacy mean? ›

    We define spiritual intimacy as revealing your spirituality to your partner (spiritual disclosure) and listening to your partner's disclosures in a supportive and non-judgmental fashion (spiritual support).

    How can I draw closer to God everyday? ›

    Spend some time with God today, and you will be blessed and refreshed.
    1. Get quiet. ...
    2. Read your bible. ...
    3. Write out your prayers in a dedicated notebook; these can be for others or yourself. ...
    4. Go for a walk and talk with God. ...
    5. Meditate on Scripture. ...
    6. Put on some worship music and immerse yourself in the melody and lyrics.
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    How can I connect with God? ›

    5 Simple Ways to Connect with God Through His Word
    1. Something is better than nothing. This happens to be my mantra about Bible reading and exercise. ...
    2. Start with a Psalm or a Gospel. ...
    3. Listen to the Bible. ...
    4. Ask a few questions. ...
    5. Pray what you read. ...
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    What are first step in building a relationship with God? ›

    How to Build a Relationship with God
    1. Talk to Him through Daily Prayer. The greatest way to create and maintain a relationship with anyone, including God, is through communication, and we use prayer to communicate with God. ...
    2. Read the Scriptures. Quality conversations are not one-sided. ...
    3. Serve Others.
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    How does prayer build a relationship with God? ›

    Sometimes God answers our requests for help exactly as we ask, but sometimes not. Either way, the Bible calls us to be faithful in prayer. Prayer—thanking, praising, confessing, asking for help—connects us with God. Prayer builds relationship.

    How do we grow in God's love? ›

    Pray daily to God.

    Honestly talking with God daily is how you begin and continue a loving relationship with Him. God knows everything, but He wants to hear it from you. He wants to hear about your day, your struggles, and your accomplishments. He wants you to ask Him questions.

    How can I love God more deeply? ›

    How to love God more than money: 8 practical ways
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    How can I grow deeper in my faith? ›

    Simple Ways to Dig Deeper into Your Faith
    1. Keep your Bible out. ...
    2. Grab a favorite devotional and keep it with it. ...
    3. Invest in a Bible Study. ...
    4. Download the Blue Letter Bible app. ...
    5. Carve out quiet time to pray, journal, and meditate on God's word.
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    Does the Bible say no kissing before marriage? ›

    Does Scripture command people not to kiss before marriage? No. The Bible doesn't explicitly forbid kissing between two unmarried people. A Christian couple that is dating with the consideration of marriage or is engaged doesn't necessarily sin because they share a kiss in a manner that retains their purity.

    How do I build spiritual intimacy in my marriage? ›

    Where to Start
    1. See sacredness in everyday things, and remember to share them with each other.
    2. Discuss blessings that occur throughout the day.
    3. Share prayer requests and answers to prayer on a regular basis.
    4. Tell your spouse about something inspirational that you read at least once a week.
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    How do I deepen my spiritual intimacy? ›

    12 Ways to Increase Spiritual Intimacy
    1. Make a commitment to each other that you will seek to grow spiritually as a couple. ...
    2. Begin praying for/with each other daily and for your marriage regularly. ...
    3. Call, email or text an inspiring Bible verse, prayer, or affirming thought to each other daily.
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    Why is spiritual intimacy important? ›

    These findings suggest that spiritual intimacy is an important contributor to both marital intimacy and well-being in that one's relationship with God has a significantly positive effect on one's marital intimacy and well-being.

    How can I get pain closer to God? ›

    Principles for walking with God through difficult days:
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    2. Fill your life with God's Word and God's people. ...
    3. Don't be filled with worry, overflow with worship. ...
    4. Believe that God will turn your sorrow into great joy.
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    How do we spend time with God everyday? ›

    How to Spend Time with God Throughout the Day
    1. Make God a Priority. ...
    2. Use Your Time Wisely. ...
    3. Look Out for Micro Opportunities Throughout the Day. ...
    4. Listen to the Word with an Audio Bible. ...
    5. Be Intentional About Your Time with God. ...
    6. Get Rid of Unnecessary Distractions. ...
    7. Just do it.
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    How can I get God's attention? ›

    The way to get God's attention in prayer is to pray His Word. He watches over His Word to perform it (Jeremiah 1:12). His Word is His will for our lives. He hears us when we talk His language!

    How do you love God with all your soul? ›

    Gratitude is key to loving God with all our soul. The Bible tells us that we love God because he first loved us (1 John 4:10). We can't love God with all our soul if we have lost our gratitude for him and all he has done for us.

    What does it mean to love God with your whole heart? ›

    The answer is perfectly simple, and simply perfect. Jesus Christ taught: “If ye love me, keep my commandments.” ( John 14:15) To love God with all of our hearts, we use our time, energy, talents and resources to keep His commandments. I invite you to reflect on how you use your time, energy, talents and resources.

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    For this reason, man is a personal, spiritual being with a moral sense of right and wrong, and he has the ability to worship, love and communicate. Knowing the only True God means having an intimate, personal relationship with Him - not just knowing about Him.

    Why is it important to stay connected to God? ›

    Our connection to God makes us clean, grow and bear good and much spiritual fruits. Our connection to God's words leads to life. Our connection to God's plans lead us to clear vision of eternal inheritance.

    What does an intimate relationship with God look like? ›

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    What happens when you draw near to God? ›

    James 4:8-10, NKJV, says “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Lament and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.

    How can I get closer to God? ›

    1. Get quiet. ...
    2. Read your bible. ...
    3. Write out your prayers in a dedicated notebook; these can be for others or yourself. ...
    4. Go for a walk and talk with God. ...
    5. Meditate on Scripture. ...
    6. Put on some worship music and immerse yourself in the melody and lyrics. ...
    7. Marvel at the world God has created.
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    What does it mean to have personal relationship with God? ›

    What a relationship with God means is that we are receiving communications from God about himself both through his word and through history. He comes to us in Jesus Christ, in his teaching, in his cross, in his apostles, through his word, and he is speaking to us.

    Why is so important to have a relationship with God? ›

    Having a relationship with God and communicating with him helps you transcend and look beyond yourself and those around you. It helps you look for guidance from that very source that originally connects us all. My relationship with God helps me feel supported throughout all my other worldly relationships.

    How do you draw near to God with sincere heart? ›

    10 Powerful Ways to Draw Near to God
    1. By Trusting in the Mediator Christ Jesus. ...
    2. By Accessing God Anywhere. ...
    3. By Taking Intentional Time to Seek Him. ...
    4. By Confessing Sin. ...
    5. By Bible Reading. ...
    6. By Praying. ...
    7. By Loving God and People. ...
    8. By the Holy Spirit.
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    What are God's rewards? ›

    10 Things Christ Promises to Reward
    • Prayer and Fasting. ...
    • Compassion for the vulnerable. ...
    • Bearing insults and being excluded for the name of Christ. ...
    • Love for your enemies. ...
    • Generous giving. ...
    • Hospitality that cannot be repaid. ...
    • Endurance through pressures in ministry. ...
    • Quality work for your employer.
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    How does God reward those who diligently seek Him? ›

    God promises those who seek Him and place their faith in Him, are rewarded with heaven when they die, and abundant life in the here and now.

    How can I strengthen my relationship with the Holy Spirit? ›

    Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationship with God every single day.
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    2. Worship. ...
    3. Bible Reading. ...
    4. Reflection. ...
    5. Serving Others.
    17 Mar 2020

    How can I fully devoted to God? ›

    remember sanctification, look for possible sin, and make the decision to love until the feelings come back. - Keep placing your life in God's hands, eyes on Christ, and listen to the Spirit. - Seasons Change, trust in every season. - Depend on God's strength, not self.

    How do we spend time with God everyday? ›

    How to Spend Time with God Throughout the Day
    1. Make God a Priority. ...
    2. Use Your Time Wisely. ...
    3. Look Out for Micro Opportunities Throughout the Day. ...
    4. Listen to the Word with an Audio Bible. ...
    5. Be Intentional About Your Time with God. ...
    6. Get Rid of Unnecessary Distractions. ...
    7. Just do it.
    18 Sept 2019


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